You Need To Listen To Your Wife! We've Built A Lonely & Sexless Society!

Jordan B. Peterson is the guest featured in this episode of The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett, released on January 13, 2025. In the conversation, Peterson argues that modern individualism and the decline of traditional community structures have created a lonely and sexless society, while also critiquing the negative impacts of pornography and premarital cohabitation on relationships.

What Does The KJV Bible Say?

The Lonely and Sexless Society: A Multi-Perspective Analysis

Modern socio-cultural and psychological evaluations increasingly echo a sobering trend: we are living in a fragmenting, hyper-individualistic society characterized by historic levels of loneliness and relational intimacy deficits. When juxtaposed with structural marriage advice—often colloquially framed as “listening to your wife”—traditional theology, modern psychology, and clinical counseling overlap significantly.

Scriptural Framework: The King James Version (KJV)

From a biblical perspective, isolation, emotional detachment, and the breakdown of marital intimacy represent a departure from the divine design. Below is a structured table showing 10 foundational examples of how the King James Version addresses the framework of marriage, listening, avoiding isolation, and fostering physical and emotional intimacy.

#	Core Concept / Example	KJV Scripture Reference	Biblical Insight
1	The Cure for Original Loneliness	Genesis 2:18	“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”
2	Continuous Marital Joy & Intimacy	Proverbs 5:18-19	“…rejoice with the wife of thy youth… let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.”
3	Active Listening and Soft Answers	Proverbs 15:1	“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”
4	The Danger of Isolation	Ecclesiastes 4:9-10	“Two are better than one… For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth…”
5	Mutual Physical Benevolence	1 Corinthians 7:3	“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.”
6	Marital Intimacy as a Safeguard	1 Corinthians 7:5	“Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time… that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”
7	The Command to Listen Intellectually	James 1:19	“Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.”
8	Sacrificial Love and Self-Care	Ephesians 5:28	“So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.”
9	Dwelling with Understanding	1 Peter 3:7	“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel…”
10	Unconditional Mutual Respect	Ephesians 5:33	“…let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”

Theological Analyst Reports

John MacArthur Analyst Report (Grace to You)

The Diagnostic: MacArthur diagnoses the “sexless and lonely society” as a structural consequence of the abandonment of biblical roles. In a culture driven by radical feminism and passive masculinity, men fail to shepherd their homes, leading to systemic familial fracture.
The Prescription: Men must aggressively practice Ephesians 5 leadership, which requires sacrificial listening. “Listening to your wife” is not an act of submission to her whim, but an act of submission to Christ—knowing her needs, understanding her fears, and protecting her spiritually. Marital sexlessness is viewed as a spiritual vulnerability that leaves the door wide open to modern secular temptations (1 Corinthians 7:5).

Paul Washer Analyst Report (HeartCry Missionary Society)

The Diagnostic: Washer views modern systemic loneliness as a form of divine judgment on an idolatrous society that worships self-fulfillment over covenant keeping. He frequently laments that men treat their wives with cold, mechanical distance rather than intense, Christ-like devotion.
The Prescription: Washer demands radical repentance from passive, checked-out husbands. To solve a lonely home, a man must die to himself daily. True biblical intimacy cannot exist where a husband does not actively and humbly listen to his wife’s heart. A sexless marriage, in Washer’s framework, is often a lagging indicator of a prayerless, emotionally bankrupt relationship.

Clinical & Counseling Analyst Report

Greg Schad Analyst Report (Crossroads Counseling Group)

The Diagnostic: As a seasoned marriage and family therapist and Executive Director at Crossroads Counseling Group, Greg Schad approaches this systemic issue through a systems-oriented and relational lens. Clinically, a “lonely and sexless” dynamic in couples is often the result of chronic emotional disconnection and misattunement.
The Prescription: From a clinical framework, “listening to your wife” means practicing deep, empathetic validation to rebuild a secure attachment bond. In his therapeutic practice, Schad emphasizes using integrated mental health frameworks to foster sustainable growth. Physical intimacy (the resolution of a sexless dynamic) is structurally dependent on emotional safety. When a husband actively listens and tones down defensive communication, he helps de-escalate the relationship’s anxiety, establishing the foundation for physical closeness to return naturally.

Psychological & Secular Analyst Reports

Jordan Peterson Analyst Report

The Diagnostic: Peterson looks at the issue through an evolutionary and social lens. He argues that modern society has atomized individuals, substituting genuine, high-stakes covenantal relationships with low-stakes digital simulations (pornography, social media), which inevitably causes sexual recessions and deep isolation.
The Prescription: Peterson asserts that marriage is a “crucible” intended to refine your character. He argues that you must negotiate continuously with your spouse. “Listening to your wife” is a brutal necessity because she acts as a mirror to your flaws. If you ignore her feedback, you build resentments that manifest as domestic chaos, leading directly to the death of sexual desire and the onset of profound, localized loneliness.

Carl Jung Analyst Report (Analytical Psychology)

The Diagnostic: From a Jungian perspective, a lonely and sexless society is suffering from a collective neurosis born from an over-rationalized, split psyche. Men who cannot connect with or listen to their wives are often fundamentally alienated from their own internal Anima (the unconscious feminine archetype).
The Prescription: A man’s inability to hear his wife reflects a psychological projection; he represses his emotional, receptive side, leading to a sterile, mechanical existence. True psychological integration and relational intimacy require a reclamation of the shadow and an open dialogue with the Anima. “Listening to your wife” is the literal, external mirror of listening to your own deeper, unconscious soul, without which true psycho-sexual union is impossible.

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) Analyst Report

The Diagnostic: Through a personality-type framework, widespread social isolation often stems from a collective breakdown in cognitive communication styles—specifically between Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F) and Judging (J) vs. Perceiving (P) dynamics.
The Prescription: In marriages where loneliness thrives, husbands (statistically more likely to test as NT/ST types) often attempt to solve emotional distress with structural, logical fixes. Wives (statistically higher representation in NF/SF types) are often seeking emotional resonance and cognitive harmony. MBTI analysis shows that “listening to your wife” requires shifting cognitive functions—moving away from immediate external logic (Te) or internal framework checking (Ti) to actively engage in empathetic, relational values (Fe/Fi). Understanding these baseline personality differences prevents the miscommunication cycles that extinguish romance and breed isolation.

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